Nicole & Paul
Reading this letter and going through an adoption journey must be a difficult and emotional experience. We are sincerely grateful for your consideration and time spent learning more about our family and our dreams to grow into a family of four. We have full confidence that you will choose what is best for yourself and your expected baby. We can only imagine what you are going through, just as you can only imagine us and our lives. We promise to do our best to give you a glimpse into our lives, our dreams, and our hopeful future, with faith that our boundless love will shine brilliantly between the lines.
We are Nicole, Paul, and River, and enjoy calling ourselves “The Killian Crowd” after one of our favorite television shows growing up – ‘The Brady Bunch.’
God must have had plans for us to meet when we both went bowling one night at Ashwaubenon Bowling Lanes and our separate group of friends happened to play in adjacent lanes in 2007. We joyfully tied the knot five years later on the island of St. Thomas in the U.S. Virgin Islands with our family cheering us on – even as we jumped into the pool with dress and all! We always dreamed of having a family, but since Nicole’s diagnosis of Turner’s Syndrome at the age of 15, we knew we would be unable to conceive naturally. Therefore adoption was always integral to our family plan.
As we started our first adoption journey, by the grace of God we made friends at church who learned of our plan to adopt and introduced us to someone they knew who was seeking an adoption plan for their expected child. We embarked on an open adoption with the birthmother and our son was born six months later. River absolutely loves dancing, music, and running around and has brought immeasurable love and joy to our lives. The open adoption has been a very cordial and rewarding experience as River and the birthmother still get to see each other occasionally and exchange pictures at her request.
I, Nicole, spend my days as a full time mother. I love taking care of River, giving him all the support he needs, and encouraging his development. Our days are filled with trips to the park, walks, playing with friends, visiting museums, the library- and of course lots of silliness and mess! In 2006 I graduated from Evangel University in Springfield, MO with a BA in International/Multicultural Studies and Concentration in French. Travelling is one of my favorite things to do and I was blessed to study abroad in France in 2004. Bon voyage! As a fluent French speaker myself, I also try to impart some of the language with River in our daily activities. When I can squeeze out the time, I enjoy singing, reading, practicing Yoga/Pilates, curling, soccer, hiking, and playing board games with friends.
I, Paul, work as a software developer for WEC Energy Group in their downtown Green Bay office and support the software utilized by the call centers for all of the company’s subsidiary utilities in multiple states. I graduated from UW-Green Bay with an interdisciplinary bachelor’s degree in Computer Science and Mathematics in 2008. (While Paul works as a software developer, he does not like to say he ‘is’ a software developer because he according to him, he actually ‘is’ a husband and father.) I absolutely love being a husband and father and the best parts of each day are when I am doing something fun with Nicole and River. I also enjoy soccer, hiking, playing board games with friends, and love to always be learning and reading about history.
As a family we strive to take every beautiful day we get throughout the year and make an adventure out of it; whether that is a taking a hike, a picnic, or anything fun. We also do our best to keep our family actively involved in our church and community. We regularly attend Sunday services and have joined multiple social groups through our church. We currently lead one such group called ‘The Young Families’ group where families with young children join us at our house and we socialize and support each other while watching our children play together and have fun.
Our home is a single family, open-concept, ranch with a beautiful backyard adjacent to the Bairds Creek Conservatory. The neighborhood is quiet and safe. We made the house a home by adding our charm to it, such as a rock wall going up the stairs, a full-wall ocean scene in the living room, a Calvin and Hobbes mural in our son’s bedroom.
Thank you again for your time and consideration. We hope that a journey of a thousand miles will start with this first step.