September 20, 2018
We celebrated Nevan's adoption finalization anniversary this year with a party complete with a giant Hungry Caterpillar cake. He was so excited, especially when he got to meet the singer/songwriter of the song "Happy Adoption Day," John McCutcheon!
Dear Birth Parent(s),
We are humbled and grateful for the chance to introduce ourselves to you. We can only imagine what a complicated and emotional time this is, and we honor your brave and deeply loving choice to make an adoption plan for your baby. We hope this letter and these photos will give you some sense of who we are so that you can make the best choice for you and your baby. We're also happy to talk if that would help!
Our Story: We both have siblings (Brian has several!) and have always wanted to have at least two kids! It's so nice to have a sibling to grow up with. We were blessed to adopt our son as a newborn in 2015, and have been waiting for almost two years for the child that would complete our family.
In early 2019 we thought our second child was finally here! We brought her home straight from the hospital, named her, loved her, and witnessed our son be the BEST big brother. We weren't sure if he'd be jealous or anxious but no, he was so gentle, loving and generous with the baby! A week later, her birth family chose to parent and we had to let her go. We respect her family's choice, but of course, our hearts were broken. We have decided to open our hearts again in the hopes that we will finally expand our family.
We know the ups and downs of adoption and have a wonderful open relationship with our son's birth mom. We have proven our ability to love and care for an adopted child wholly and unconditionally. Our son is the light of our lives, and we are certain that the next baby will only bring more love and light to our extended community of family, friends, church, and neighbors who are also awaiting the arrival of this little one.
About Us: Christina is 37, and Brian is 38. We met in 2010 and have been married five years (since 2013). Brian works in fundraising for a community nonprofit organization and Christina is a minister at a Unitarian Universalist church. Brian plays soccer and Christina loves to dance and roller skate. We both enjoy traveling, cooking, movies, live music, and reading, and being parents is the very best part of our life! Nevan, age 3 ½, is a funny, tender-hearted, energetic, and very musical kid. He loves singing, playing instruments, Daniel Tiger, and having books read to him. Nevan is biracial, black and white. As his parents, we work hard to ensure he has friends, role models, books and toys that celebrate his race and culture of birth. He attends an amazing, diverse preschool.
Our Values: Since Christina is a minister, we are active at our Unitarian Universalist congregation. Unitarian Universalists (or “UU”) are very open-minded. UU’s all have different beliefs about God, the afterlife, and the world, but we all agree that we should work to make the world a better place. Those are the values we want to teach our children: to be kind, loving, fair, and accepting of others, especially people who are different from them.
Why Adoption? Christina had a lot of childhood health issues and surgeries, which meant that she has always known that being a biological mother wasn’t physically possible and she made that clear to Brian early. Our journey hasn't been without grief, but we have never wavered in our commitment to creating our family through the miracle of adoption.
We know that adoption means that a lot of losses happen-- and we hope to help lessen those losses by being as open as we can with your child, teaching them about their birth family and heritage. We celebrate both birthday and adoption day in our family with cake and a party! Your child will always know adoption is a special part of their identity-- that your choice was one made out of selflessness and love. We are interested (if you are) in maintaining contact through letters, pictures, and/or visits so that the ties that you have with your baby can be maintained throughout your lives. We support any level of openness, even if that changes over time.
Thank you for reading our letter.
With so much love… -Christina & Brian (and excited big brother Nevan)
Christina & Brian